Did you know that your clients live in your muscles? They do. They burrow down and move in to your muscles and your bones. Without spending the time and energy to turn inward and notice that, your clients may decide to live there for a while. In this CEU we look at the ethics around self-care and what happens when we turn away from caring for ourselves.
More importantly, we will practice. You will be nurtured. You will be loved. Come and open your heart to receiving care and learning to care for yourself, and therefore, your clients.
Objectives: - Learn to identify where different emotions manifest in your body - Learn to understand what is "your client's" and what is "yours" - Learn and practice techniques to release these emotions and feelings from your body
1.5 hours Ethics CEUs for LCSWs, LPCs and Psychologists
We have all been there: over extended, tired, resentful, completely out of steam…
It is an easy place to end up. We own our own businesses. We are over-achievers. We want to do everything. And we actually think we can.
I had a difficult realization recently when my own struggles saying “no” landed me doing WAY too much. I knew I needed to rein things in a bit but before I could set some better limits I screwed myself! I ended up completely flaking on a friend- was supposed to meet after work, and literally just forgot. I felt awful. That next week I started to really think more about all the activities I am involved with and how I ended up so overcommitted.
I struggle with saying “no.” I truly want to be able to do so much. I am passionate and eager- but it just has to stop.
Places to say “no” more:
Don’t take on new clients when you are really at capacity
Don’t agree to take on a sliding scale client- when these slots are really filled
Don’t agree to see clients at times you have planned to be off
Saying “no” in different ways:
Do hire out for aspects of your business that you don’t want to manage
Do plan to take significant breaks from your work
Obviously the intention in writing this blog is in part a reminder to myself to follow this advice more. It is so hard to set these limits for ourselves! However, we truly must. We are better when we are saying “no.” The fear that our phone will stop ringing is just NOT TRUE. You might let someone down BUT eventually you’d let them down because you’re burning the candle at both ends!
I listened to the “Selling the Couch” podcast recently and the interviewee had some helpful advice on this very topic. It is always great to have a go to podcast on something that you might need some constant reminding of! Take a listenand see if you agree:
Self-Care looks different for everyone. I was reminded of that on Friday as I prepared a cheese plate. My sister looked at me and said, "You really enjoy this, don't you?" She was referring to my time in the kitchen. You see, that, for her, is more like self-imposed torture. But for me, when I have the time and space, there is therapy in the repetitive movements of a chef's knife. I find the combination of spices and textures to be an art form. I love the challenge of a pairing, the connection in sharing. I began studying and writing about wine when my children were just beginning their lives; when I was beginning my new life as a stay-at-home mom. It gave me something outside the home to focus on, became an outlet for creative thought, a challenge and a way to connect. It gave me the time and space I needed to stay "me" when everything else was changing.
My children are in school now, I have time and space to myself. But I continue to hold on to this because I continue to grow, to learn. I continue to be impressed by the people I meet and the expanse of possibilities. I continue because when I am in the kitchen, dropping sticky scones on a cookie sheet or dicing shallots for a vinaigrette, I feel at home.
It was a love language I learned early in life. Meals were a time to connect. My mother filled a wall with cookbooks; we traveled around the world with our palates long before we did on planes. We stated our wishes at Sunday meetings and she obliged. Seasons brought a change in menu, but the feeling was constant.
My sister didn't "catch" it, but my brother, who was a German major, is a professional, self-taught chef. My cookbooks gather dust, but never my pots and pans. My children are adventurous eaters (to a degree), my husband a grateful audience. I felt love from my mother's efforts, I hope my children feel the same.
Each month I will be sharing a recipe that stood out, something seasonal inspired by the local Farmer's market, or a wine that needed nothing to shine. We may travel to a local winery, explore a region, or discover a new grape. And if cooking is intimidating, now worries. Popping a cork is easy.
This month, I shared about a winemaker in California (see below) who took a chance, changed careers, and her wines are lovely. I hope you enjoy. And if you want to try them, they are available online.
Thank you for letting me share my go-to method for self-care. If you have a topic you are interested in, please let me know.