How many of you have terrible, awful memories of shopping in middle school? Trying to buy the "right" jeans and convince your parents to pay for the "right" shoes.
(Not me. I went to all-girls Catholic school and wore a uniform. )
But I hear that's a thing. Shopping. Middle school. Feeling sh*tty...
Now, though, I feel like an awkward sad teenager when I shop for jeans. THAT I get.
Here's the thing. There is no such thing as "be your best self" really, right? I mean, be yourself. Be your authentic you. Show up, and that's all we want.
(We also want to show up in really hot jeans... which leads me to...)
Somehow when we start thinking about getting headshots taken and putting photos on our website something switches. We aren't worried about being our authentic selves anymore. We're back in middle school trying to find the perfect jeans to be our best self so everyone will look at us and love us.
(I'm so tired just thinking about it.)
Here's the thing, though. You don't have to figure this out ALONE. Did you know, there are people who want to help you feel good and look good being you. The badass Laurel Kinney, personal stylist, is ready to help little ole you out. I kid you not. Check out her amazing services here.
It might sound indulgent, but having someone help you stay true to you so your closet is only filled with comfy, lovely clothes is 100% worth it. Check her out! Every morning will be a little lighter when you are wearing clothes that make you feel comfortable, confident, and happy.
Ahh, good ol’ goal setting. Nothing can bring about more hope and enthusiasm than coming up with goals for yourself and your business! And nothing can bring about more disappointment, frustration, and self-criticism than watching those goals go unmet. *Glares cruelly over at dust-covered vision board of broken dreams from 2016 *
When it comes to growing our business and clientele as therapists, we all know the value in having goals to keep us focused and on the road to success.
Those are some of the goals I used to think mattered to me. Until I realized, they don’t. All of those things are important and certainly need to be addressed. However, when it comes to your goals, they need to have more heart.
Unfortunately, some of the old questions I would ask myself when setting goals were:
Ya know what happened when I spent my time trying to do what I thought I was supposed to be do based on what I saw other people doing? I didn’t meet my goals. And as a bonus, I got to carry around a bag of shame and self-loathing each day to help remind me that I definitely was a failure. So. Much. Fun!
Things changed though when I started asking myself questions from the heart. Questions like:
The problem I see with so many people when it comes to setting goals for their business is that they base them off of other people’s expectations, leading to either a) reaching their goals, but feeling unfulfilled, or b) not reaching their goals because, as it turns out, it’s really hard to achieve something that isn’t compelling to you on a personal level.
But what if we were to all pause for a moment amongst the franticness and hustle of private practice to check in with ourselves and see what we want for our business? What we want for our lives? Check in with ourselves to see what things actually matter to us.
Because if we keep basing our goals off of what other therapists, podcasts, facebook communities, and ingrained expectations tell us, those goals will continue to fall flat. But once we tune into ourselves and find goals that excites us? The world of private practice will become much more fulfilling.
Interview by Sara Paules
Hannah Eubank is an LPC Intern and LMFT Associate under the supervision of Tammy Fisher, MA, LPC-S, LMFT-S. Hannah is a therapist at a new group practice in the area, Austin Relational Wellness, along with two other colleagues. https://www.austinrelationalwellness.com/
Tell me about your ideal client.
I'd have to say couples, mainly because of the dynamics and energy in the room when you're working with them. Specifically, young adult couples that love each other and are just going through a tough situation. I've been more interested in doing premarital counseling as well and really enjoy the energy they bring in the room. They're really working together towards the same goals and the intention is very present.
I also have an interest in working with men. I think there's something so powerful about the type of change you can see in men when they come to therapy and start to feel comfortable in feeling vulnerable maybe for the first time in their lives.
You are involved with a new group practice with two other clinicians. I want to know, what's been your favorite part of working in a group practice so far?
Definitely the creative part. I also think that working in a group practice in general has just made things so much easier overall. We all really even each other out and have our own talents to contribute. I love that, if I get stuck on what direction to take with something, that I can always just bounce ideas off of them instead.
Do you have a favorite social media outlet you like to use?
Instagram. I really like the therapist community aspect of it and that it has such a positive vibe overall.
What has been your most successful or favorite way to get clients so far?
Right now I'd have to say word of mouth from previous clients. I've gotten most of my clients from mental health awareness talks at various companies where my colleagues and I just come in and talk about mental health and sustainability or self-care.
What is something you feel proud about so far in your journey?
Definitely helping with the creation of the website.
What made you want to pursue counseling as a career?
I just always knew that I wanted to be in a helping profession, and I also really wanted to do something creative. There's always something new coming in the door with therapy, so that's where I get to use my creative side.
More personally, I had a child life specialist as a kid because I had some of my own health issues. Because of that experience, I thought I wanted to work with kids, until I started working with them and realized that I actually connect more and have a bigger desire to work with adults.
What advice would you give to new therapists just starting out?
Don't be afraid to get out there. Also, find someone who you can go along the journey together with and bounce ideas off of, even if you don't go into group practice. Connecting with other therapists going on the same journey can be so helpful to keep you going.
Okay last question: what are you eating and what are you reading?
Oysters on the halfshell and red wine is always my "go-to" meal, and I'm currently reading "Daring Greatly" by Brene Brown and "Self-Compassion" by Kristin Neff.