It is an easy place to end up. We own our own businesses. We are over-achievers. We want to do everything. And we actually think we can.
I had a difficult realization recently when my own struggles saying “no” landed me doing WAY too much. I knew I needed to rein things in a bit but before I could set some better limits I screwed myself! I ended up completely flaking on a friend- was supposed to meet after work, and literally just forgot. I felt awful. That next week I started to really think more about all the activities I am involved with and how I ended up so overcommitted.
I struggle with saying “no.” I truly want to be able to do so much. I am passionate and eager- but it just has to stop.
- Places to say “no” more:
- Don’t take on new clients when you are really at capacity
- Don’t agree to take on a sliding scale client- when these slots are really filled
- Don’t agree to see clients at times you have planned to be off
- Saying “no” in different ways:
- Do hire out for aspects of your business that you don’t want to manage
- Do plan to take significant breaks from your work
Obviously the intention in writing this blog is in part a reminder to myself to follow this advice more. It is so hard to set these limits for ourselves! However, we truly must. We are better when we are saying “no.” The fear that our phone will stop ringing is just NOT TRUE. You might let someone down BUT eventually you’d let them down because you’re burning the candle at both ends!
I listened to the “Selling the Couch” podcast recently and the interviewee had some helpful advice on this very topic. It is always great to have a go to podcast on something that you might need some constant reminding of! Take a listen and see if you agree: